The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship.
At one point or another in this life, you’ll realised that Change is desirable and needed. Not wanted.
Change is not just or limited to trying to be pious or be an “Ustazah or Ustaz” to anyone. Change to become a better person. Change is solely upon yourself, not for your family, friends, lovers, husbands or strangers. Change is for NOONE but YOURSELF.
Forget about the judgement of others, girlfriends, friends or even family. So let them criticise. The only Judgement that matters are His, and with His all Almighty and great Mercies to grant us forgiveness. Do everything with good intentions.
I must say that attending the Women’s Conference organised by the HIYC Sisters organisation has been so beneficial. It shed some light and feeds the soul with the positivity, the strength and made us remember the gift that Allah created for us Women. Change can be a big tasks but all you need is that one step, even if it’s as tiny as baby steps. A step to explore a whole new world that has been carved for you.
“In other words, you will realise that the person who injured you only did so based on Allah’s preordainment and decree. People are only means, but the One Who decrees and decides is Allah, so surrender your will to Him.”