Every now and then, the news of cheating partners lay by on my newsfeed. I sit there pondering to myself if my spouse is doing the same. And that’s just me.
Irregardless whether its the man or the woman, cheating i despise. No matter how good your reasons you kept shooting to prove your innocence. Cheating period. is not on!
Being in the same boat myself prior to getting married to my husband. It wasn’t my husband. It was an emotional rollercoaster. You trusted that person with all you got, you knew the relationship was for the long run, you both had visions of getting married and have a family. But that one day came, you got the phonecall you wish you didn’t take but looking back you are so thankful you did.
“Sorry babe to call you in the middle of the night like this; i really need to tell you because you’re my friend and that i hope you know that i care for you. Your boyfriend is cheating on you and has been ** with another girl! Are you there? Hello… Babe… Talk to me, please! Hello..”
And i just hung up the phone just like that but i did text her to thank her for telling me. Why i chose to believe her, because i know she will never lie to me. She won’t call me so late at night if she knew it wasn’t important. Me, i just collapsed on the cold floor with my phone in my hand and curled up crying so hard in the most silent way so that i wont wake the rest of the family up.
Each time when i read about cheating partners, i recalled that specific time. I layed on that floor that night crying. Trying to reach that Man whom i trusted, respected and loved that was left unanswered. And more unconventional thoughts of him and that girl just sprung on my mind again and again that night.
Multiple anxiety attacks and asthma hit me! I am emotionally weak. My ultimate weakness. By the time, it was morning my tears dried up, my eyes swollen and my heart was hurting so bad. I texted Him to meet me at our usual place. He knew now that i know, i texted him countless times about it. On top of the unsuccessful numerous calls i made.
We met and talked about it. We cried. He was remorseful but I wasn’t ready to take him back. I left. Not for long. Rather unfortunate. He chose me over that girl. Ecstatic not the least.
That girl, she has the cheek to call me to try to be friends with and apologize for that fling! She try to add me on various social media.. She tried to chat me up on MSN. She emails me a couple of times which i never entertained. As heavy my heart is, sinking like an anchor to the ocean floor. I forgave her and told her to move on and do not attempt to contact me anymore.
For him, the next year and the half was very challenging. Was full of trust issues. I was insecure. My heart was constantly challenged. I soon regretted. I was emotionally wreck. I couldnt see myself getting married with him and still having all this trust issues. I couldnt see myself having a family with someone like him anymore. I kept telling myself, maybe tomorrow i will be able to come to terms with it. But that tomorrow didn’t come. not ever.
And so I ran. I moved. I flew to another continent to start a fresh.
This time i told myself, if my man were to cheat on me, I won’t hesitate to leave. Yes with or without kids. I am not capable to go through that heartbreak again or feeling insecure for the rest of my life!
It was definitely a big chapter of my life that was just so hard to erase. It reminds me my scars and who i am today. I learned not to give 100% in love or trust to anyone except for Allah. Because noone is perfect except for him.